How to use this list
- These are prompts and starting points, not a mandatory checklist — nothing here should be treated as required just because it's printed in a list.
- Read through together, circle or highlight what actually appeals to both of you, and leave the rest.
- Revisit what you've chosen on a regular cadence. Needs and limits change.
What's inside
Morning rituals — tone-setting acts for the start of the day
Service & tasks — concrete, assignable acts of care
Protocol & etiquette — agreed-upon behavior in presence
Physical & body awareness — always consent-first
Mental & submission mindset — discipline aimed at headspace
Creative & playful — light structure, not solemnity
Weekly check-ins — the zoom-out conversations that keep it honest
Built-in safeguards (recommended before using any of these)
- Safeword or check-in phrase — clearly defined and always honored, no exceptions.
- Opt-out clause — any item can be paused or declined without punishment if it conflicts with health, safety, work, or wellbeing.
- Regular renegotiation — this is a menu, not a contract; revisit it together.
- Aftercare plan — noted separately, agreed to in advance.
Choose what fits your dynamic. Discipline here means structure you both want, not obligation you're stuck with.